If you have read some of my earliest content on this blog, you know I believe a bully does not wake up one day and decide they want to be very bad people. I believe a bully has someone or someones in their lives that have treated them in a way that shapes them into being bullies. Because it can be, in some ways, considered ‘not their fault,’ it begs the question:
Are bullies bad people?
To answer a question this deep, we have to do a lot of thinking–People’s own morals and values usually weigh in on their answers to this question.
A bully takes deliberate action to harass and harm the people around them. This is clear evidence to the opinion that they are ‘bad people.’ On the contrary, they take these actions because they are insecure about themselves, and have been shown that stripping someone else’s confidence is the way to be above others. This can be used to support the side that they are not ‘bad people,’ simply victims of ‘bad circumstance.’
Or do you believe ‘good’ and ‘bad’ are too thin terms?(Please, tell me if you believe that, and why!)
A bully can be looked at from many different perspectives; but I don’t think any of them will ever be classified as ‘right.’
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What is your definition of a clique?
To me, a clique is a stereotyped group of people classified by another group of these stereotyped people.
Uhhh…..okay, let’s make that a little more understandable. I believe a clique is a way people identify other people.
‘Nerd.’ ‘Jock.’ ‘Bully.’ ‘Geek.’ ‘Yes-Man/Woman.’ Cliques are ways of identifying that are usually meant to bully/humiliate someone else-“Hey, nerd!” “Look at that big fat jock.” “Man, that guys such a geek.” There is no real way to stop anyone from using these terms, because they are so common. However, you can reduce how much you use them, and try and stop it if you see it. (I’m not saying not to see someone bullying and say ‘that guy/girl is a bully’–I’m saying not to use the terms with grains of salt.)
If you see someone you know classifying another, step in. Evaluate the situation. If you know who is being classified, or the classifier, or both, use that to your advantage–Appeal to their friendliness(assuming you have friends who are…friendly) and try to defuse the situation.
The use of cliques as titles need to be reduced. The insecure people in our world are use to these cliques. And these identifying words seem to have more power than nine true, heart-felt compliments.
Try your hardest to reduce the amount you use these terms, and try to stop it if you see it.
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