Too little effort, Too much effort, and Bullies…


What is putting in too little effort into a project or an activity?

What is putting in too much effort into a project or an activity?

What is being bullied for doing either of these?

 

Putting in too little effort into a project or activity is either the inability to because of a temporary or permanent disability, or,(more likely) the dislike or not wanting to do an activity.

 

Putting in too much effort into a project or activity is either the lust to beat someone or the want to make sure you can get a good grade/noticed from a teacher or observer.

 

A bully will exploit both of these as they see fit. If a person is not putting in enough effort, a bully will take every chance they can get to make fun of a person not putting in enough effort.

“Hey, (insert name here), why aren’t your doing (insert project/activity here)?”

“Wow, you can’t even shoot a basketball! You’re such a wimp.”

“You’ll never be able to throw a football as good as me!”

“(Insert teacher’s name here), (insert name here) isn’t doing the work he should be doing!

 

“Hey, (insert name here), stop being so serious and mean! This game is about having fun!”

“(Insert teacher’s name here), (insert name here) is doing way more working and leaving me with nothing!”

“You’re trying waaay too hard!”

 

Keep in mind that a bully’s goal as a bully is to make themselves feel better about themselves. They will take any chance to make someone look less smart, weaker, or smaller than them to achieve this feeling of betterness.

 

I’ve been asked a few times, both in real life, and on the internet, on and off of WordPress, how to stop this type of bullying. I’ll hear things like “It’s just too hard,” “I can’t figure it out,” “I don’t have enough time to learn it, my teacher moves too fast,” and I always respond the same way; It’s always essential to keep practicing something to get better at it. If you’re not good at basketball, pick up a basketball at a store for twelve dollars and go shoot some hoops at your nearest community or school, after hours of teaching.

 

However, I am not trying to say to get better at everything just so a bully will not be able to pick on your about it———Sometimes, we find something plain boring or unimportant, and whether it is important or not, you know if you’ll set it down or not once you are finished with that unit/requirement. It is still important to remain optimistic and open to these new experiences.

Ask yourself this: Do I want to get better at this? Is it something I don’t want to do, but am being forced to? Do I feel like I’ll not do this much more?

After answering that question, you should be able to make a decision about whether you really want to get better at the activity. A bully shouldn’t be taken into any account when you’re making a decision about your life.

Don’t let a bully be a factor in what you do and do not want to do. Your life is your own life, and you are allowed to lead it the way your want to. At the same time, make sure you are open and willing to get better at something for the sake of your own betterment.

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