Physical Eduction and Bullies


A bully values their own self-confidence. They are willing to do many things to get this self-confidence. Physical Education classes give this chance in a few different ways.

I’ve wrote a post like this before. But this is different.

 

A student who has the chance to outmatch someone in a physical activity will. If you are playing a running game, such as flag football, a bully will go for you every single play that he can.

If you are playing a balance game, a bully will do everything on the sidelines to make you trip, fall, etc.

If you are playing…well, you get the picture. A bully enjoys the opportunity to make a student look bad or dumb in a way that brings an angry reaction out of you. How do I know this?

 

I was never the fit/athletic kid. When I was a few years younger, I didn’t like sports, I usually didn’t want to play them(With some exceptions :3), and didn’t hone my skills all that much with almost all of the sports I was forced to play.(except a few)

 

Because of this, I was easy to beat and jab and pick on while playing sports. I almost always couldn’t hold a reaction in. When you’re right on the spot, determined, and then fall, fail, and get laughed at, it is unbelievably harder then holding in a response to verbal bullying.

 

 

What to do if this happens–get away. Don’t even look at the kid who just beat you. Go to your teacher and say you need time to yourself. Five minutes. But get out of that situation. When you’re calm, and have had time to process what happened, and process how to respond and deal with the situation, everything will go much smoother.

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Response to Daily Prompt: Goals


When you started your blog, did you set any goals? Have you achieved them? Have they changed at all?

 

I set two goals when I started bullying-dontstandbystepup.me.

 

The first: Help people learn more about a bully, why he/she bullies, and how to deal with a bully.

 

The second: To make more people in the world more aware of the huge problem of bullying that exists in our societies; whether it’s at home, in schools, at the work place, or taking a walk in the park.

 

I have not changed these goals ever since I started my blog; however, I have not achieved them.

Response to Daily Prompt: Helping Hand


Tell us about the most surprising helping hand you’ve ever received.

 

The most surprising helping hand I’ve ever received is the helping hand from my teacher in second grade. I was on the path to being a bully myself, and she showed me a different way to express myself and be my own person.

 

If it hadn’t been for this teacher, I wouldn’t have gotten through elementary school the outgoing kid I am, and I wouldn’t be writing on this blog. I owe my second grade teacher a lot of things.

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Respone to Daily Prompt: Too Big to Fail


Tell us about something you would attempt if you were guaranteed not to fail (and tell us why you haven’t tried it yet).

If I was guaranteed not to fail at one thing, I would do whatever I had the ability to to make sure that a bully understands that he/she isn’t worthless and does not need to pick on others to mean something.


I want these kids who have their confidence stripped from them understand that they do not need to steal someone else’s confidence to be a person who takes their own orders and doesn’t listen to what other people tell them about what they are.

I came up with a saying a few weeks ago.

If we are what everyone tells us we are, then what are the people that are telling us what we are?

This saying is asking what the people who tell us what we are actually are themselves. It is important to think about.

I have tried with specific bullies.

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“I’m a Hilarious Joke to them”


Today, I was returning to my home from school, and was talking with one of my friends. My friend was talking about logic and how he/she always said weird things. He/She let me know some of the sayings and rumors around school that had been made for him/her, and gave me a descriptive picture of why he/she was considered such a ‘Hilarious Joke.’

 

I listened to my friend explain all of this to me, and realized he/she was a lot more like me a few years ago than I thought. I told him/her that at the end of the day, he/she was still alive and standing.

 

 

If someone feels like this–like people feel that they’re a ‘Hilarious Joke,’ hear them out. If they are being bullied, the last thing they need is to be shut down and told they are wrong. They need support and a shoulder to lean on.

Response to Daily Prompt: Morphing—Bully


Language evolves. The meaning of a word can shift over time as we use it differently — think of “cool,” “heavy,” or even “literally.”

Today, give a word an evolutionary push: give a common word a new meaning, explain it to us, and use it in the title of your post.

 

 

Bully. Believe it or not, hundreds of years ago, bully meant exactly the opposite of what it is now–Someone who helps and supports, a friend.

 

I want bully to mean friend again. Bully: adj; A person who gives support and feedback; see friend.

Wouldn’t this be quite a change? A kid would no long be called the ‘schoolyard bully.’ I wonder at how this word was changed to mean the opposite of it’s definition in the first place.

 

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Response to Daily Prompt: Success!


Tell us about a time where everything you’d hoped would happen actually did.

 

In my seventh grade year of middle school, I was having a very bad day. I had started the day by putting on both my shirt and shorts backwards, and then it was noticed by many kids at my school noticing, and(as usual) making an extravagant point about it. An hour and a half later, I got in a lot of trouble for forgetting to do a relatively grade impacting assignment.(I still turned it in, with a 10% decrease in the final grade.) Afterwards, the next class, a student called the teacher a string of seven words that contained an astounding amount of profanity. The teacher was not very good at handling any of that language and behaviour, and absolutely exploded, giving the wanted reaction, and I was tardy to my class because of this reaction.

Afterwards, I was ready to be done. I got to my fourth class, and the teacher noticed my foul mood. She was a P.E. teacher, so she had to instruct, but she gave me extra time just jogging/running and paired me up in a sport practice with herself.

Then, fifth class, my teacher was also noticing my mood. She allowed me extra time to read my reading book.

Final class, a teacher who was normally highly expecting and sort of dependent of me handling myself accepted adequate work from me, instead of double, and triple checking that I was alright with the work. He didn’t really ask about what was happening, but he saw my mood and went easy on me.

 

After a long half-day of irritating people and hard to deal with situations I would rather not, three classes of having some slack given to me was really nice. It had me in a somewhat good mood, and I managed to get through that week without anymore bad occurrences.

Friend? Bully?


A lot of people have been there. A long time friend–always been by your side, always stuck with you, through thick and thin-gets a new group of friends. Know what I’m talking about?

 

When a friend gets a new group of friends, they are left with a few decisions- they can either remain friends with you and stay with their group at the same time, they can stay friends with you, but n0t the group, or they can not remain friends with you. When someone joins up with a new group of friends who hassle and pick on others, it’s usually the third option.

This can cause grief and strain in one’s life. A person who has lost a friend in this way feels cheated and like their friend has been stolen. This creates tension and depression.

 

There is no way to ‘take a friend from the thieves.’ A friend who has moved to another group has made this at least partially of his/her own accord.

 

This can be one of the hardest time in a person’s life. It’s not easy to get through this; you will just have to not hang out with that person anymore, not make a confrontation, and, if that friend starts bullying you, it’s best to go right to a trusted teacher/administrator.

The hard truth is that a friend taken away just sucks. There’s no way to say it differently; it’s unfair and unjust. However, the point remains that getting in the middle of it is a bad thing to do.

Response to Daily Prompt: Evasive Action


What’s the most significant secret you’ve ever kept? Did the truth ever come out?

 

The most significant secret I ever kept was a secret I was asked to keep by a friend I will not name, which was that he had a crush on a girl and he was too nervous to tell her. The truth actually did come out, and he received a lot of bullying and insults for it. The crush my friend liked didn’t go to the same middle school as me and my friend, to his dismay.